You’ve likely heard people talk about the phenomenon of “Imposter Syndrome” – the propensity to feel like you’re going to be ‘found out’ by everybody due to this or that weakness you have, despite your many accomplishments.
In the face of this defeating self-talk, a greater focus on strengths can provide a validation of your skill set. It feels better because you’re using the natural talents you already have inside you and bringing them out, front and center.
There is truly ONE thing that matters most in an organization. In this video, I share my thoughts on this, and provide highlights from a talk I did at the Gallup London Summit on building diverse teams.
This month’s theme is proactive and a way to be more proactive is to choose mental toughness. According to a recent article in Success Magazine written by Emotional Intelligence expert Travis Bradberry, there are 15 qualities of mentally tough people. Here are 5 of my favorites:
I have discovered something that feels very counterintuitive to a Type A person like me. The more I relax and am at ease; the better I become. This is a major paradigm shift for me. I am an ACHIEVER, (#13 of my Clifton Strengths) so getting things done/checking things off my list has always been highly valued by me and many of the people I have worked with. In fact, at one of my first jobs out of college, being an achiever was so important that it reinforced the very act of being busy. The busier you were, the more people noticed, and the more you were rewarded. The challenge is whether you are busy on the things that actually matter or not.
Some leaders have shared horror stories where they were advised to act like the majority in their company and conform to fit in. As you might imagine, this didn’t work for them AT ALL. Leaders that are being inauthentic or have to stretch far to reach the “code” of behavior, often report feeling exhausted at the end of the day. Here are some ways to maintain authenticity yet connect with others.
How many times have we all heard this common response or even given the response ourselves? It’s overused, overdone, and unfortunately completely accurate for many. We are constantly bombarded with noise, distractions, competing priorities, too many demands, and for many of us; the desire to do it all perfectly.
According to Simon Sinek, author of Start with Why, people like Martin Luther King Jr., Steve Jobs, and the Wright Brothers had little in common, but they all started with WHY. They realized that people won't truly buy into a product, service, movement, or idea until they understand the WHY behind it.